MY FIRST TIME

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The first time I saw her it was purely by accident. The room was dark except for the moonlight that shined through the windows. The moonlight showed only the silhouettes of the bodies but I could still see them. She was biting her lower lip and her hair was disheveled. Her her head was turned slightly to the left towards me but her eyes were slightly closed. The left arm was positioned by her right breast slightly elevating her off the bed as her hands gripped the sheets. She used her left hand to push back into him.

There he was with his strong muscular body positioned behind her. His facial expression was focused on her form. He placed his left hand on the middle of her back pushing her down to arch her back. He used his right hand that was placed between the crease of her thigh and torso to pull her close as he thrust deeply inside her. The deeper the stroke the more she bit her lip. As sexy as he looked there was something about her that intrigued me. The way her body moved with each stroke. I couldn't take my eyes off her.

NIGHT 2

Her hips and back were raised slightly off the bed. She placed her hands above her head and firmly pressed them against the wall. His right hand was positioned under the arch of her back. His left hand clinched her left breast. Her head turned slightly to face her hands. She was having an orgasm as she moaned "Oh My God". Her facial expressions showed both pleasure and pain. He smiled at her as her body convulsed from the orgasm that he had given her. The orgasm was so strong that her breathing became intermittent. Her legs wrapped tightly around his waist. It was one long continuous orgasm. Her body shivered and shook.

NIGHT 3
She was mounted on top of him. His back was rested against the wall. His hands gripped her waist as she rode him. She leaned into him placing her left breast in his mouth. You could tell that she enjoyed the way his tongue flicked around her nipple as she tilted her head slightly back and softly moaned. She brought her head back forward and looked down at him as she moved her breast in and out of his mouth as if teasing him. She cupped the back of his head and told him to suck harder as she rode him faster and harder. It was the the build up of the orgasm that she longed for. That is when he noticed me watching. He took his left hand grabbed my hair tightly and began fucking me as hard as he could. As I began to cum he pulled me close and whispered in my ear "So, you like to watch yourself"? I took my eyes off of my reflection in the mirror and turned to him and replied "Yes".

LOVING FROM BEHIND

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My First Anal Encounter

My first invitation to offer anal pleasure to a woman came during college when I was dating white girls. I was dating this one girl in particular when I first experienced anal. During a night of intimacy that’s when it happened. I just got done giving her oral stimulation (I once was so eager I got hiccups while eating her out but that’s another story). The anal sex topic was indeed her idea and yes I was curious but in my mind I was thinking “will my dick smell like shit “, “will it fit”, “will it hurt her – shit will it hurt me”? I thought of the expansion of the sphincter muscle and the tight feeling as if it she were a virgin and the control and then you go for it. She takes my manhood which could break a brick at this point. My Dick was so hard it was throbbing and it was hot she gave me an extra wet blow job, to fully lubricate my shaft. While turning over to get in doggy style, she just guided my Dick into her ass – working the head first back n forth. She said “never want to force or jam it in till she gapes”. In case you don’t know “To Gape” means the anus has sort of opened; through anal four-play to the size of the penis she is working with. Once she achieved “Gape” I really started to get into it – hot – tight – and her moans of pleasure and pain were a big turn on. She he let me have my way with her ass literally for 45minutes! After she came she gave me the “serious ok” – she twisted her self to look me I the eye – and said in the sexist voice I’d heard to date- “CUMM IN MY AZZ, DO IT – DO IT CUMM I N MY AZZ”!! I don’t know why but that shit is like a license to tear some shit up – I put one hand on her shoulder, the other at the fold of her hips, and I rose up on my toes. When I got her and myself in position it was on. I tried to pay her back for slavery, civil rights, Malcom X, Martin, and Kennedy. I was so deep inside her. The excitement of anal sex was so powerful that when I came it was so much it ran out her azz as she lay there shaking, sweaty, and moaning with pleasure from sexual pain.

Is it her pleasure or your pleasure?

Once you have done it you are going to want to try it again. Please use a condom! Don’t think anything crazy like “I don’t need a condom because she can’t get pregnant from her azz”. I have heard guys say this. Even though she can’t get pregnant you are still at risk of disease so be safe, use a freaking condom (MAGNUM ECSTACY). Now when the time comes (I prefer to let the lady decide) as a man you can’t be walking around just talking about anal sex because you may put yourself in a closet. If during sex she is curious or wants to try she will let you know. If it is her thing she will be into it. She will know the positions that she likes and from what angle. More than likely she has tried it herself with her dildo or rubber silicone dick. So trust me if she into it your good just supply the dick and let her get it off she may take it from the back or side or ride you true cowboy style.

“If she is letting you hit the taboo zone to please you – take that into account – don’t just tear the azz up, be gentle – let her find pleasure in pleasing you – after all if she is doing it to please you as a man – you might want to ensure you can hit it again – so let her adjust, it may be new for her”.

Warming up to the booty hole

OK I am going to break this down to you guys and gals – the anus is designed to be EXIT ONLY – so the veins, tissue, capillaries are all compressed to work with the sphincter muscle to move things out- now it’s the same concentration of tissue that is the pleasure of pain when the penis enters her anus. One young lady describes anal sex as; “it is like a euphoric high without the marijuana“.

Men you cannot just go in like you can with a vagina. The keyword is "GAPE". You have to get her and her anus to relax and take form. Whether you use your tongue, finger with lubricate or sex toy with lubricate, you must give anal four-play before inserting – look for the Gape as the anus loosens it will slow to close as you continue to give four play . Once that happens substitute you Penis just using the head at first – the ease it in to her comfort level – never force it – let her body moisten itself around your Penis. You as the man will feel it loosen she will arch her back or spread her legs for you to go in…

Black Girls and Anal SEX

Men please know that 6 out of 10 black women “ARE NOT ON IT” but it’s the “FOUR” that will surprise you. You might think the hot in the club girl half dressed, very flirtatious and all over you will be the one- “Not”. It’s the quiet girl who dresses nice but not like a freak, works a regular job that will have Pandora’s Box of whips and chains and will be all into to anal sex. A couple of be black women have gotten me like that. I was with this one black woman and we were having extremely good sex. Let’s just say the mild mannered 9 to 5 day jobber had a wild side. After about two to three months of great sex she took it to a new level. This is how it went down during a session: we were in a feverish lovemaking session currently in the missionary position. I went to adjust my knee to go in deeper but in the process slipped out. I heard her say “I got you baby” and instead of putting my dick back into her pussy she put my dick head up her azz and simply said “get it but be gentle at first”. My mind was like “What the fuck I am in her azz. Damn it was her idea”!! I happily obliged her. Man what a good session that was and she was all into it. Once she gaped and got loose she was raised her hips to get me deeper inside her ass grinding and all. Then she turned over for me to hit it from the back, she loved it when I played with her pussy and clitoris and the same time until she had another orgasm. This was this first time I felt a ass hole get “cummy” while cumming from her vagina too.

The Freak in HER!!!!

Sometimes you will get a real trooper that is willing to try new things or maybe school you on a thing or two. Most women already know what they like especially if they own a dildo or vibrator. One thing that is a big turn on for me is a woman who like the taste of there own pussy. She will taste herself by either licking her fingers after she touches herself or by perform a deep blow job after you have been inside her. But if she grab your dick and sucks it after you have been in her azz well that’s a different type of hot………

Chocolate Girth……

Does Size Really Matter????

My First Time

DOES SIZE MATTER?????

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Stop asking me if your big enough! I hate when a man asks me is he big enough or if I enjoyed it after fucking. For one some of you don't really want the "REAL" answer. Two its a turn off and three if you couldn't tell by my reaction then its your fault. I understand that many men are sensitive about their performance. The truth is that size does matter to some but not all. A man can be eight inches and still be terrible in bed because he doesn't know what he is doing (trust me I know). The time that it takes to instruct him is tedious as hell(unless you love him)...smh. Before you run and jump to defend your manhood let me explain.

The main goal that we both share during sex is satisfaction. That includes having an orgasm or you just "busin a nut". Trying to shove 8inches into a vagina that is only 6.5inches is not pleasurable! The goal is not for you to cram every inch of you into her to prove that you are a man (take that,take that,take that). We already know that you are a man because you have a penis! All women really want you to do is make the experience pleasurable and memorable (in a good way). I can't speak for all but I can certainly say that I love a "Perfect Fit".

What is a "Perfect Fit" you may ask? A "Perfect Fit" is when you find a partner who is large enough to your liking. For example: Lets say (ladies) that your about 7.5 inches deep and your partner is 8inches then that would be a "Perfect Fit". He is just large enough even though he is a half inch larger he has just enough to try and cram in to where its not painful. Some may like maybe a half inch to and inch and a half. The pain is just enough to where its pleasurable. Men If your too big for her and try to cram every inch into her every time you can bend her cervix. Yes, men you can bend the cervix. I know that many ladies love an extremely large penis and ruff sex but be warned that this can eventually bend the cervix causing it to become difficult to become pregnant. Now don't get it twisted you can still get pregnant but it can be difficult.

So fellas to give some insight I asked some ladies if size really mattered:

CATHERINE-

Does size really matter? In my opinion, if you truly are in love with the guy then no. Your emotions take over and more of your heart is there than anything. If its just someone you want to have intercourse with then of course it does. He's probably a big talker and has nothing to show for it. Why have sex with someone if you cant feel a damn thing?! Depending on the female when a man has a small wanker then it gives the female a totally different perspective of the guy

ANGEL-

Hey lady! Let's see....size; where shall I begin? :-) (jus thinking about various sizes makes me blush...LOL)

Size: Yes, it matters! Now, you can have a HUGE dick but there are 2 downfalls that can happen with that. A) its so big that it's more uncomfortable than it is pleasurable. Yes its desirable for the sake of experience & curiousity but you know what curiousity does; kills the cat! (not in a good way) Its almost hard for him to hit your spot cuz he's so big that he's taking up ALL the spots in the coochie! lol Then you have B) a guy has a big dick but doesn't know how to use it! (such a waste of a good tool! *kills me*) He has a nice piece but his rhythm is off....he just can't satisfy you even though he's "holdin"!

Now, on the flipside of having a big dick, you have the "average to relatively small" range. While this isn't the most sought after size, I've found that I've received more pleasure from an "average" sized dick. I find that a man can hit my spot better. He can hit it at an angle better if he's able to maneuver the dick a little bit. (with a HUGE dick, he's just in there with no room to spare!) Having said all this, average sized works for me; not "small" though. Small dicks are not desirable at all! lol (none need apply!!! LOL) That just feels like somebody fingering you; so high school! :-)

In conclusion, yes...size definitely matters! I'll always give the "big boy" a try but I prefer an average size dick so I can truly enjoy the sex! Ow!!! :-)

" GENTLEMEN" ARE THEY WORTH IT?

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Men have you ever been dating someone and asked yourself "Are they really worth it"? Many of you get caught up in the moment where we want to show someone how we feel or think of them but many people are not worth the time or the effort. So how do you determine if the person that you are seeing is a "worth the time"?

Looks first personality second! That's just the way that it is no matter what someone tells you but once we meet that person we forget to have real conversations with them. Example: if your planning the first date what suggestions are being made for the date. If you suggest Morton's and she wants Applebees then there is a problem and we are not just talking income here. Fellas if you suggest Morton's and she is dead set on Applebees because she has never been or never heard of it then you might want to keep it moving. She is not open to try new things and/or experiences.

Now of course on the first date we want to look our best so men that means "NO WHITE T-SHIRTS". If we are going to a nice restaurant a polo shirt and some nice khakis would be nice. Please do not sag so much that we have to look at your underwear. Depending on who is driving for this date if the music playing is anything Gucci or if its Plies "Becky" then you might want to get that emergency phone call jumping off so you can keep it moving. Fellas if your bring your date roses and she looks at you funny just turn around and leave. I was reading twitter and I saw that one of the people that I follow had bought his date some roses and she told him that he was moving to fast. Ladies I want you to remember that most men have no idea what the different color roses mean. So if he brings you red roses on the first date that does not mean that he is in love with you already or that he is ready to hit the sheets immediately. He is being called a rare species know as a "Gentleman".

Yes they still exist! Gentlemen walk against the curb of the street and open doors and are not always trying to cop a feel every time they see you. When you go out with a "Gentleman" the date does not always require a sexual favor. "Gentlemen" do not play songs like "Fuck My Baby Mama" by Eazy-E right before sex (true story). "Gentlemen" take you on trips out of the state just because he wants to do something nice with you (ever just leave the state to go to a movie). "Gentlemen" buy you "Just Thinking About You" cards just because. "Gentlemen will not let you spend more on them than what you would spend on yourself. "Gentlemen" demands that others in his presence respect you no matter what the situation is. A "Gentleman" simply just enjoys your company.

Ladies please take note because they are a rare species and you can easily kill them for the next lady simply by being a "Bitch"!

I dedicate this one to all the gentlemen that I have met and that have been destroyed by that Bitch!

THE ORGASMIC KISS

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How can you have an orgasm from just a kiss? Well to start off many woman may not be able to experience this but for those that have we can tell you that it can be one of the most amazing orgasms that you can every have. The first time that I had ever experienced and orgasm by kiss it took four hours of kissing. We did not start off intentionally looking to have an orgasm by kissing it just sorta happened. I know many can not imagine kissing for four hours but if you are kissing someone that can really kiss and you are sexually attracted to them it can happen. Kissing is one of the most erotic, sensual, and passionate activities that one can do with their partner. It is one of the best ways to tell how a person really feels about you without words. Let's be real it is the closest that we can get to someone next to sex.

I do want you to understand that there is a proper method to kissing. Shoving your tongue down your partners throat is not always a turn on. Now before you start the kiss we need to start at the beginning of the day before you meet up with your partner. whcih involves exfoliating the lips. Yes, you can exfoliate the lips! Haven't you watched The Tyra Show? You can start by taking some vaseline and putting some on your lips. Leave the vaseline on for five minutes and then take a warm face cloth and in a gentle circular motion rub the towel around the lips removing the dead skin. Once you are done place a light coat of Vaseline back on the lips. Soft lips make for the best kisses.

Now when starting the kiss please remember that no Carmex should be on the lips. Medicated kisses are not sexy! Ladies if you have it use the flavored lip gloss cause it makes the kiss more interesteing when your partner is trying to suck it off :-) .

How do you have an orgasm by kissing well first the mood needs to be right and you need to mentally in tune with your body. You have to mentally place your mind in a state where you are aware of all the sensations that bring you pleasure while you are kissing your partner. Start off by picking a position. You can be either sitting on your partners lap or you can be laying down (now fellas you may not have an orgasm from doing this but the turn on is making her have one). Whatever position that you are in take your hand and place it on the back of your partners neck. The palm of your hand should be at the base of the head and neck. Place the thumb right behind the ear. You can use your fingers to play with their hair. Now tilt the head to the desired position. Gently pull your partner towards you. Gently rub your lips against theirs and take notice of the softness of your partners lips. Use the tip of your tongue to lick your partners lips and when the moment is right insert the tip of your tongue inside your partners mouth and then pull back. You want to take your tongue and circle the tip of your partners tongue with yours and pull back. Try licking the top, underside, and the sides of their tongue and pull back. You want to continue doing this with rhythmic movements. You can change up the kiss by imitating each kiss that your partner does. If your partner circles the tip of your tongue, pulls back and licks your lips then you mimic the same. If you suck on your partners tongue the pressure should be light. If you suck too hard it can ruin the kiss.

If you are sitting on


French Kissing 101: It may be hard to believe but not many people know how to french kiss. Control your tongue when kissing your partner. As stated before you do not have to shove your entire tongue in their mouth. The french kiss is an erotic exploration of your partner's mouth and tongue with your tongue. If you shove too much tongue into your partners mouth you have less control over how you move your tongue. Start with just sticking the tip of the tongue in your partner's mouth and then pull back. Use your tongue to lick the sides and underside

JACK RABBIT SEX

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He moaned "I am about to cum" and I could not have been happier because it was about to be over. I couldn't believe I just had "Jack Rabbit" sex like Carrie from "Sex In The City". For those of you that do not know Jack Rabbit sex is fast paced, highly aggressive sex also known as Bang, Bang, Bang. Many men believe that women love to have sex this way when in reality it can be painful and unsatisfying. Jack Rabbit sex is like masturbating with a woman. You are fucking her as if you are fucking your hand. You don't have to beat it up for the sex to be enjoyable.
As I stated before Jack Rabbit sex is not enjoyable especially if that is the constant motion during intimacy. You should be taking the time to enjoy the way she feels. Men need to take the time to learn the art of thrusting. The various speeds, depths and angle of the thrusts can make sex very enjoyable. So how should you begin?
Start by taking the tip of your penis and rubbing it around the opening of her vagina. This helps to build arousal which in turn increases her vaginal secretions or in laymens terms causes her to be really wet ( don't forget the kissing on the lips and the breasts are still necessary). As you do this you will notice how she opens and closes as if she was trying to pull you in. Don't give it all to her yet. Let her lips kiss the tip of your penis. Now tease her by sticking just the tip of the penis inside her. Remember the more you tease her the more aroused she will become. Now when your ready give her all of you but slowly. You want her to feel every inch of you as you enter her with a deep thrust. Now once inside her you don't have to immediately have to start beating it it (thrusting intensely). The whole point is to enjoy the experience need I remind you!
Now after you have entered her (assuming that you are on top) grab her by the back of the head (grab some of her hair but not to tight) and look her in the eye and thrust deeply into her. You want her to know that you are in control and that right now this is your pussy and that you are going to make her feel as if she is being made love to. Pull out and do nine shallow thrusts and then one deep thrust then withdraw, pause, reenter and perform eight shallow strokes and one deep. Continue the countdown. eventually you will get and the rhythm and you will not need to count anymore. You can also vary the thrusting techniques by also trying the "Corkscrew" maneuver. The "Corkscrew involves the man moving slightly right and the moving slightly to the left while thrusting. You are moving your penis inside her vagina in a circular motion by doing this. This method is best when done in the missionary position or while doing it Doggy style. The "Corkscrew can cause a deep orgasm for many women. You can speed up the motion as the intensity of the sex increases.
Ladies don't feel left out because if he is not thrusting inside of you the way that you want him to you can take control of the penis. Ladies if you are on top you have full control of the depth and the intensity of how his penis enters you. To start off don't just jump on the penis as if it was one of those stick on the chair dildos that you bought from the store. Sit on the penis slowly. If he grabs you by the waist or if he grabs you by the crease of your ass and thigh to take control take his hands and place them above his head. While moving his hands above his head kiss him passionately on the lips. You want him to know that you are in control. You can also adjust his thrusts by the way you angle your body. Shift your pelvis in a different direction.
So men we need for you to take time when you are in us to enjoy the feeling. Enjoy the warmth and wetness of her while you are inside of her. There is nothing like the sensation of you being inside of her. Sometimes she may not want to cum or have an orgasm. She may just want the experience of the feeling of having you inside of her.

(Remember if you are going to have sex please use a condom! Use the links to the right to order your free Trojan Ecstasy condoms while supplies last. If you are going to go raw be honest with your partner about the last time you have been tested for any STDs especially HIV)

Good Girl

I AM THE OTHER WOMAN

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I am the other woman. What separates me from you is that I know my position. Granted you may be "Mainline" but I get the same passes and privileges as you.

I am the other woman cause I fuck better than you. I don't even have to be like Superhead, hell he doesn't even ask that of me. You wanna make love and I just want him to fuck me.

I am the other woman cause I make it easy for him to talk to me. You critique his goals and things he considers accomplishments. I am right there to tell him that I am proud of him and then offer my assistance with his next goal.

I am the other woman because I am not always in his pockets. On Payday you stand there with your hand out stretched so that you can go shopping. You complain when he gives you a limited amount. The amount is limited cause he has already went shopping for me.

I am the other woman and I drive not only his car but yours as well when he has it. Those some of those business trips that he is one are really getaways for the two of us. He takes you to Outback and takes me to Mortons. We have even met before too. Trying to remember when? Don't bother because you will never figure it out.

I am the other woman because I make sure he doesn't get caught. I never call him he calls me. Don't bother searching his phone cause you will never find my number. I am listed under a males name or a business or I could be an alternate number for a friend. Try calling the numbers in the phone but beware of what you say cause you could damage a real business relationship looking for me.

I am the other woman cause you will never catch us out because I don't have the same interests as you. If he slips up and mentions my name he can simply explain it away because you want so desperately to believe that you are the only one.

I am the other woman because you can't compete with me. You trick on him and in turn he tricks on me. What he doesn't give to you he gives to me. I already know that it will not last. It ends when I am done with the thrill.

Sincerely,
The Other Woman

(This is not a real letter just a creative work)
(Please ladies don't read more into this than what it is)

HEARTLESS

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ORAL LOVEMAKING

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Its 2009 and I can’t believe that men still don’t perform oral. That’s almost as bad as the females that I meet that never had an orgasm. Deep down inside if a man has not tried it he truly wants to. Its just that he doesn’t know how. I know that their are some women that do not like to be eaten out. This however can be an enjoyable experience if it is done properly. Their have been many conformist to this idea once they have had a partner that knew what they were doing. So you already know that I am going to tell you how to get it done. First you need to start off by finding what she ate for the day. I know that you may be asking why this is important? Remember the saying “You are what you eat” well this holds true when performing oral. The bodily fluids that you secret can contain flavors of things that you ate earlier in the day. That means if your daily diet consists of a lot of alcohol, garlic, onions, asparagus and you smoke it can cause you to leave a bad taste in his/her mouth. I would suggest eating plenty of fruit and drinking lots of water each day to sweeten your juices. Try eating lots of pineapple, papaya, cranberry, melons, mangos, apples, grapes. These fruits are high in natural sugars and offset the is bitter taste. That does clarify “she tastes like a peach” doesn’t it.

I would start with stimulation but I will safely assume that you already have that down packed. Now before you start I need for you to remember that this area is sensitive and the most sensitive part in this area is the clitoris. Pressure is everything when performing oral. She may or may not like intense pressure on her clit. Listen to her moans pay attention to her body movements. If she is moving away it could be because the pressure is to intense so change the pressure. Ladies I also need for you to tell your partner how much pressure that you like. You need to tell them either “more pressure” or “light pressure” so that they know what is stimulating you.

Start by spreading her legs and placing the palms of your hands against her thighs and use your thumbs to spread her outer lips (ladies you should either be clean shaven which means no stubble or you need to be cut close enough to where your partner is not going to gag on a hair). Lick and kiss the area surrounding the clitoris. If you need to expose the clitoris with your thumbs lightly lift the clitoral hood to expose the clitoris. With your tongue apply light pressure to the tip of the clitoris. Kiss and suck the sides of the clitoris. Gently kiss the clitoris. As she becomes more aroused insert your middle and index finger into the vagina. Move the fingers in a “come here” motion. Take the tip of the tongue and flick it rapidly back and forth along the top of the clitoris. Then move your tongue up and down the shaft of the clitoris. As she is nearing orgasm insert your tongue in her vagina and move your tongue in a circular motion. As she is cumming move your tongue back and forth. Feel her vaginal muscles try and pull your tongue deep inside her. Ladies if you need to grab the back of your partners head but don’t try to bury their face in the vagina so that they can not breathe. Your partner still needs to breathe. Use one hand the grab the head and use the other to grip the sheets. Depending on the strength of the orgasm you should be able to grab the back of your partner’s head and slightly raise your hips and ride your partners tongue.

Depending on the woman she may actually cum or as some men may say “bust-a-nut”. She will secrete a creamy looking substance that looks like semen from the vagina. She can even be a squirter as well. Yes, she can bust in your eye to. I want you to know that this all natural. You don’t have to perform oral on her until she cums. Oral can be performed right before intercourse. Its can be most arousing to bring her to the brink of orgasm and then to stop oral to begin intercourse. The same technics described above can also be used during the 69 position as well. The importance of the female orgasm may be of importance to men because (depending on the woman’s orgasm) during the female orgasm her jaws and throat may become more relaxed so that she can deep throat.

I hope that these technics have helped you to become more aware of the female and male orgasm. I know that the men may be wondering where their instructional is for the females on how to perform oral on a man but right now I think that Karrin Steffans lastest book (which includes pictures) is instructional enough. Besides that technic coming from me is classified!

LOVE HURTS

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My face was still swollen from being hit in the face with a brick. I don't even know how I ended up here. Everything was so perfect between us in the beginning. I would have never done anything to hurt Aaron. One year later here I stand explaining what brought us here.

Officer Nichols: I this may be hard for you right now but can you explain when the physical abuse began?

My once sexy smile is now destroyed after having Aaron knock my tooth out after I came home late. I probably should have called but I didn't think that I was that late. During the argument Aaron threw the remote at me an knocked out my tooth. Later Aaron apologized. I know it wasn't intentional. You know how arguments get heated.

Officer Nichols: Why didn't you leave ?

I love Aaron and our child. I know I should have walked away after the Aaron tried to choke me but I know I can do things that make people wanna get at me. I want to be there for our child. Family is important to me. I believe in two parent households and our child should not suffer because of a few misunderstandings between us.

Officer Nichols: Do you remember the events of earlier today?

I don't know how I ended up here. I remember talking to my co-worker Shelley and then feeling this pain against the left side of my head. I looked around and saw Aaron standing in front of me yelling. I couldn't really hear what was being said because the sound was muffled. I touched my head and when I brought my fingers around to the front of my face i saw the blood. Before I could say anything to Aaron pounce on me and started punching me. The next thing that I remember is my hands around Aaron's throat and then everything went black.

Officer Nichols: Your co-worker ran and called security when your girlfriend hit you in the face with the brick. I want you to know that violence is never good in relationship no matter what end it comes from.

Why Do Men Stay In Abusive And Violent Relationships?

Protecting Their Children. Abused men are afraid to leave their children alone with an abusive woman. They are afraid that if they leave they will never be allowed to see their children again. The man is afraid the woman will tell his children he is a bad person or that he doesn't love them.

Assuming Blame (Guilt Prone). Many abused men believe it is their fault or feel they deserve the treatment they receive. They assume blame for events that other people would not. They feel responsible and have an unrealistic belief that they can and should do something that will make things better.

Dependency (or Fear of Independence). The abused man is mentally, emotionally or financially dependent on the abusive woman. The idea of leaving the relationship creates significant feelings of depression or anxiety. They are "addicted" to each other.
Who Can Help If You Are In An Abusive or Violent Relationship?

Help for men who are victims of domestic abuse and violence is not as prevalent as it is for women. There are virtually no shelters, programs or advocacy groups for men. Most abused men will have to rely on private counseling services. Community resources for breaking the cycle of violence are scarce and not well developed.

National Domestic Abuse Hotline
1 (800) 799 - SAFE

(oregoncounseling)

GROWN WOMEN-vs-GIRLS

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Insecure Women want to control the man in their life.

Secure Women know that if he's truly hers, he doesn't need controlling.

Insecure Women check you for not calling them.Secure Women are too busy to realize you hadn't.Insecure Women are afraid to be alone.Secure Women revel in it-using it as a time for personal growth.Insecure Women ignore the good guys.Secure Women ignore the bad guys.Insecure Women make you come home.Secure Women make you want to come home.Insecure Women leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Secure Women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.Insecure Women worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man
.Secure Women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.Insecure Women try to monopolize all their man's time (i.e., don't want him hanging with his friends).Secure Women realize that a lil' bit of space makes the 'together time' even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.Insecure Women think a guy crying is weak.Secure Women offer their shoulder and a tissue.Insecure Women want to be spoiled and 'tell' their man so.
Secure Women log you off your email when they are on the computer.
Insecure Women Check your email and text messages.
Secure Women 'show' him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his 'manhood'.Insecure Women get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it.Secure Women know that was just one man.Insecure Women fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all 'signs'.
Secure Women know that sometimes the one you love, doesn't always love you back-and move on, without bitterness.

RELATIONSHIP PINK SLIP

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Closure is what many of us seek at the end of a relationship but many times we are left to wonder what went wrong? We are left to wonder if it was something that you did to them or maybe someone better came along. The feeling of not knowing can be a hard pill to swallow. It can emotionally devastating for some. You have been given you relationship "Pink Slip" but you have no idea WHY?

I fell in love once over a phone call. As simple as that sounds that was all that it took for him to have my heart. What was special about the call was that it was Valentines Day and me and this person had plans for that evening. We spoke that morning but later that evening he was a no show. He did not return any of my calls. I am used to not having a date for Valentines but I thought that this year would be different. As the days went on I became upset because I had not heard from him. By weeks end I received a call from an inmate in a correctional facility. It was him. He called to tell me that he didn't stand me up but that he got caught up in a situation with some people and he wanted me to know that. He didn't want anything from me nor did he want me to do anything for him. He simply wanted me to know that I was that special to him. It was just that simple I received that closure that I needed to move on. I no longer had as feeling of rejection or inadequacy. As far as our relationship we still remain good friends and he is no longer in a correctional facility. His stay was not even that long. Our lives however were moving in different directions so a real relationship was not to be had. As I had found closure in the previous relationship there is one that I have not yet to find closure. I had spent days and nights trying to figure out what went wrong. All communication broke down between us. He was someone that I felt was a good friend but apparently I was wrong. It was the perfect relationship without commitment. We would play video games and watch movies (I am a movie and video game enthusiast). Eventually the relationship became physical. I will admit that the physical was amazing! I would have been happy if things stayed as they were but eventually he wanted to be in a relationship. Prior to him I had not been in a serious relationship in 2yrs so I was hesitant. One of the things that made me hesitant was that fact that he was a rapper and I am aware of the temptations in that he has and would face in that career but also we stayed in two hours away from each other. He was very persistent, eventually I decided that being in a relationship with him would not be so bad after all. The day that I wanted to give him his answer I called and got no answer. I sent him a text to call me and I left a message but I got no answer. The next day I spoke to a mutual friend that told me that my friend no longer wanted to be bothered with me because "I" was pressuring him to be in a relationship. The only thought that came to my mind was "Wow". The first conversation of a relationship came from his lips. I was perfectly content with the way that things were. I never got a chance to speak with him again because he would not take my calls or respond to any of the text messages that I sent. I just wanted to know what the real problem was. To this day I have never spoken to this person again and the most conversation that we have had after the fact was a "How are you" on Myspace. What makes it hard for one to bring another party closure is because you don't want to hurt their feelings. But one may not be aware that they do more damage by leaving the person in a state of not knowing. I have recently had partners in previous relationships approach me to explain why they left. They felt the need to tell me after all of these years is because they felt that they needed a sense of closure for themselves.

GOOD GIRL

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The anticipation of wanting him inside me was so high that I couldn't control myself and masturbated before he arrived at my suite. I knew the moment when I saw him that neither one of us wouldn't be able to keep our hands to ourselves yet alone our tongues. This man's kisses were so passionate and succulent. I don't know how many times I came in my panties from his moist kisses. The doorbell rang as I was getting myself together. He stepped inside my doorway with his long tall frame. "Damn it!!!!" I said to myself. He kissed me and asked how was my day. As usual he always makes it better when he arrives to sooth the pain away.

He picked me up and carried me to the bedroom. I felt his hardon in his pants. Damn, all I wanted to do was taste it and I couldn't express it enough. I unzipped his pants and pulled down his boxers and placed his long hard shaft ever so gently inside the wet walls of my mouth. Ummmmm....... precum the best shit and I couldn't wait to tatste more. I slid my tongue around his dick over and over to examine it with my long juicy tongue. We switched positions as I was sitting on the bed. I wanted him to lay down and let me get on top while I worked my magic. I sucked it hard as if my mouth was a suction pump and then relaxed as I threw in the curl of my tongue around his dick. I slid his dick in and out of my mouth and I started to drool on it. It became slippery so I added the right kind of hand action at the base of his dick with the half but light touch of jacking him off action. As I started sucking harder he started squirming and his toes started curling. He pulled my head closer and down harder on his dick and told me he wanted to cum inside me and he wanted me to taste him. I agreed by sucking him harder. He was enjoying it. I lightened up a bit , didn't want him to have a stroke on me from the intensity of my blow job. I flicked my tongue on it and tried sticking my tongue into the split as much as I could while I massaged his balls and cupped both of them in my mouth while licking his dick. By this time he was ready to explode and I did what any good girl would. I obeyed my man and got on my knees while he stood over me and released every bit of his hard working day into my mouth. As he stood there doing so I just watched him shake and jerk while having fun with the cum in my mouth. He told me I was a good girl for taking every bit and swallowing.

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ORGASMIC-ALLY CHALLENGED

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Many women have never had or are not sure that they have had an orgasm. These women are the ones that I call orgasmic-ally deprived. Yes, If you have never had one I blame you! How is your partner suppose to know how to satisfy you if you don’t know what you want or need to be satisfied. Its like the blind leading the blind if you ask me. Don’t worry because I am going to help you discover “Your Sexy”.

Step #1:

So you may be asking yourself “How is she going to help me find my sexy”? I am going to start with this simple question (but first I need you to stand in front of a full length mirror naked): “Do you think you are sexy”? Some of you are not going to be so quick to answer yes because you are only looking at your flaws. Stretch marks, cellulite, and that little belly that you have is still sexy to a lot of men! I need for you to focus on the things that make you as a woman sexy whether its the thickness of your thighs, the curvature of your hips, the smallness of your waist, and the fullness of your breast. These things make you sexy as a woman. You need to love all aspects of your body including your flaws. Improve on the things that you can but love everything else just the way that it is. There is nothing more sexy to your partner whether male or female is someone that has confidence in their appearance. Your partner may find that
the dimples in the booty are the sexiest thing on your body. The stretch marks on your thighs and ass may be the thing that gets him aroused. You need to feel the same way. Once you have accomplished that and started to see your self as sexy you are ready to move onto the next step.

Step #2

Once you have started to become attracted to yourself you need to begin to take your time to find out how you like to be touched. No, I am not saying for you to start molesting yourself immediately (at least not yet anyway). You need to take the time to start learning the pressure points on your body. You can do this when you are in the tub, putting on lotion or better yet right after you left the spa from getting a mint body wrap. Whether you are in the bed or on the couch should have total silence in the room. You want to only focus on your breathing and you the sensations you are about to experience. You should start by lying on your back and begin rubbing your leg with your finger tips. Apply very light to heavy pressure as you move your fingers up and down your calf. Close your eyes how does the sensation make you feel? Now make your way up your thigh. Slowly rub the inner thigh. Focus on the sensation that you have when your fingertips lightly move around your thigh and up to you hip.
Now do the same thing with the opposite leg. All the while concentrate on your breathing and the sensations that you are experiencing. Work your way up your torso up to your breast. Gently fondle your breasts. Then work your way to your arms. Are you beginning to get turned on yet? Try to restrain from touching your clitoris and your vagina. The whole point of this step is for you to become in tune with your body. If you are doing this right you may already be having an orgasm or on the verge of having one. (I know I am). You are now ready for step #3

Step #3:

Now that you know how you like to be touched now its time for you to learn the difference between a vaginal and a and a clitoral orgasm. By learning the difference between the two will help you to know if you have or have not experienced an orgasm. You need to set the mood for this one so have a glass of Chardonnay, light some candles turn on “After Hours” or insert your favorite Cd (custom cd with all you favorite sensual songs are recommended for step and increase the bass setting on the radio as well). Begin by rubbing your fingers along your inner thigh and along the crease of your ass and your thigh. Explore your body as you did in step #2. This time once you are turned on take your index finger and the ring finger and gently massage the inner lips of the vagina. Once again focusing on your breathing as your fin-
gers explore the inner lips. Take the middle finger and gently play with the tip of your clitoris. Apply various forms of pleasure. Massage the clitoris by rubbing it between your index and ring finger. Move your hand closer to you vagina and lightly massage the vagina. Don’t insert your finger just yet we can’t have you going for immediate gratification just yet. With the middle finger massage the clitoris in a circular motion. While manipulating the clitoris the vaginal muscles will automatically begin to contract. Focus on contracting your vaginal muscles as you continue to play with your clitoris. Don’t come just yet! You want to intensify the orgasm by delaying it. This is called “Masturbation Interruptus”. Become completely aroused and then stop. Repeat this step until you can no longer can take it then insert your middle and ring finger into your vagina. Use your thumb to continue the stimulation of the clitoris. As you climax let your vaginal muscles push and pull your fingers in and out to continue the orgasmic feeling manipulate focus on the sensation that you are feeling and lightly rub the tip of the clitoris. Vary the pressure that you apply while staying focused on the sensation that you are feeling. If the sensations are become more intense and vaginal walls are contracting more intensely you are experiencing an orgasm. Now that you are more aware of how you like to be stimulated and you know what a clitoral orgasm is you are now


ready to experience the vaginal orgasm. Pick up the phone and call your partner for this last step. :-)

Step #4

Now having a vaginal orgasm is not the same as having a clitoral orgasm. During the lovemaking process you need to more vocal with your partner. You are in control of your orgasm and ultimately theirs as well. If they are not touching you where you need to be touched to become aroused you need to direct them. Verbally tell them where you want to touched or grab their hand and slowly and silently guide their hands to the spots on your body that causes you arousal. Kissing is a very important part in the arousal with your partner. Shoving your tongue down their throat is not a turn on. Take the time too truly enjoy the kiss. The kisses should be light, playful and teasing. Use your tongue to light caress the lips, play with the tip of your partners tongue. Kiss them passionately. Rub your hands along their body the same way that you did yours in step #2.

Now whether you want to go into oral after kissing is your choice (and I would have to give another step for you to have an orgasm while giving oral) but we are going to continue focusing on the vaginal orgasm. Now once you are ready for penetration (www.trojan.com)
you need to make sure make sure that you are in a position that you are comfortable with. Whether you are on your back, on top, or in the Huckle Buck you need to participate. Don’t just lay there! Being a pillow princess is not a turn on.
(Pillow Princes is one who just lays there) Remember that you are in charge of your partners orgasm as well. Arch your back and position yourself to where you can raise your hips to meet his when your partner is on top. Press your hands against the head board, wall, back of the couch (wherever you are) to gain more leverage. Follow the rhythmic motion that your partner has. If they are going to fast or slow whisper the speed that you want. Ladies if you are riding your need to do more than just bounce up and down. You need to dominate your partner. Put his hands above his head like he does yours. Slow grind on him while either kissing him passionately or looking him in the eye. Remember those vaginal muscles that you discovered in the last step. Use those same muscles now. You want to have the muscles to contract while you ride him. If you find that trying to make the muscles contract while riding is taking to much concentration position yourself to where the clitoris is exposed and lean slightly forward so that you can stimulate the clitoris against his body (men this works best if you have shaven). Imagine that your vagina is hugging him or that it is a hand squeezing him. Kiss and lick his neck. Continue until you feel the pressure rise and you have an orgasm. Congratulations you have found “Your Sexy”

When your partner is hitting it from the back throw it back at them. Wrap your legs around them and put that arch in your back. Not sure why he likes that position? Next time get the same mirror that was used in step one and position it near the bed and check your self out

while your partner is back there. Yes you are sexy in this position! Achieving an orgasm while in the doggy style position requires focus once again on the vaginal muscles. You don’t have to do to much work in this position. Let you partner enjoy being in charge for awhile. Once the pace slows down then that’s when you spring into action. Take control of the position. Bounce back and forth and move your hips. Tilt your hips slightly forward and back again. Imagine your hips are moving in a waving motion like the ocean. By now I shouldn’t have to tell you but I will again “work the muscles”. The same goes for the Huckle Buck. Arch your back and press your hands against something brace your position.

I stated before that you are in charge of partners orgasm as well. So how can you make him achieve it? Participate in the act. The more that you are aware of what turns you on the less stress and focus that your partner has to give to make sure that you are satisfied. Most men are used to making sure that his partner gets theirs before they can focus on their pleasure. The time that they take to try and figure out what turns you on and off can be time consuming. By the time they get you to your peak they just want to cum and go to sleep. A woman that knows what she needs and participates allows an man to focus on what turns him on. Talk dirty to him even say his name. These things encourage him on the act. They let him know that he pleasuring you correctly. Look him in the eye and give him that “Fuck me look”! Once a man is able to focus on his arousal like you are focused on yours. This will also help to kill the
infamous “Jack Rabbit” sex and the “101 Positions”. Jack Rabbit sex is the constant pounding. It is also known as “Bam Bam Bam”. That is not pleasurable in my opinion however their are some that love that. 101 positions is what a man feels he needs to do in order to please a woman. Men its not the number of positions that you put her in. Its whether or not you can satisfy her.

If you are one that has trouble rotating the hips get a Hoola Hoop and start practicing. Make sure you get the Shoop Shoop (you know the ones that have the balls in them and make the “shoop shoop” noise when you doing it right) If that does not help learn how to belly dance. Not only does belly dancing help to tighten the mid section but it shows you how to rotate your hips. One of the important things to remember in sex is your breathing. In Tantric Sex teachings we are taught to breathe each others breathe during the act. This doesn’t mean that you are really inhaling their breathe. You inhale as your partner exhales. You are in a sense becoming one. Your body’s are one in this experience. It is important to enjoy the experience whether you are in a long term relationship or a one night stand. I know that many of you may be skeptical about the one night stand but think about it. You found someone in the club or wherever that you think can satisfy that urge that you have for that moment. If you are going to have a one night stand shouldn’t you make the most of it and truly enjoy yourself? Don’t forget to always practice safe sex. An orgasm can be just not intense if not more by knowing that your partner is wearing a condom.

Do Men Have Orgasms

DO MEN HAVE ORGASMS???

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As many of you know an Orgasm is the climatic peak that one reaches during sex. Recently I came across a blog post on “Nakedwithsockon” discussing how men can fake orgasm . This left me with the question “Can Men Have Orgasms”? Its something that I have never discussed nor have I ever heard a man talk about having one. Upon reading the blog I learned that even though a man ejaculates at the end of sex does not mean that he had an orgasm(yes ladies men can fake orgasms that is if they know what one is). “I know the question running though most people’s minds right now is: “Why would a man need to fake it?” Same reason women do, to protect their partner’s feelings. Whenever I talk to my female friends about this topic it always seems to come as a big shock that a woman can be wack in the sack. Despite popular belief, just being there is NOT enough. Just as men can be a lame lay so can the fairer sex” (www.nakedwithsockson.com.)

Of course after reading the blog I had to do some research of my own. According to Western Sex therapists beliefs a males ejaculation and orgasm are the same thing. Eastern sex therapists believe that men do experience orgasms like women and the orgasm may or may not include ejaculation. This does not mean that their body will convulse and shake like a woman but they do experience something similar. So what does the man experience? According to the information that I gathered a “males penis experiences contractions and pleasurable sensations around the genital area similar in timing and sequence to a females orgasm”.

Even after getting this information I still had to find some men that could describe the male orgasm to me because I was still lost in translation. I asked 6 men whether or not they have had an orgasm and could they describe the feeling. These are the comments that I got from some of the men that I know:


DREW

Are you talking about coming or something else? IS there something else.

CHOCOLATE GIRTH

When men hear the term male multiple orgasm they often imagine experiencing orgasm and ejaculation several times in a row (like a female would) But the term male multiple orgasm usually refer to the experience of having several non-ejaculatory orgasms in a row during one session of sex play, which is a different, but intense and satisfying, sexual experience. In laymen’s term it is truly the buildup or the connection of physical to mental being totally aligned at the moment. I truly feel sorry for those who have not yet had one or many – but still think that because they have had a large ejaculation that it equals a Man-gasm - NOT SO – STUPID.
Just because you had a large ejaculation means nothing to that specific topic – maybe you drank a lot of water – to its just been more than five days till your last encounter.

Fella’s for those of you who feel its not cool to totally let go and enjoy the sexual tenderness that your lady can give you – Your fucking missing out!!! If you think that by relaxing and enjoying will deem you as whipped – oh well. Its like this for those of us who put in selfless work to bring our ladies to the point of orgasm- when they reaching for shit that ain't there, toes curling backwards, speaking in other languages, eyes rolled back and you scared to touch her- Fuck that I want her to make me feel the same way…. So I'ma bout to lay back and get my session on – talk to you lames lata…

SHAWN

I never had one.

KING

A feeling that most men may not talk about often is the same feeling that has allowed us to keep Millions of Women in Love or strung out in Lust. This Feeling is the Male Orgasm…sort of sounds like an Oxymoron lol but yet it is the same feeling that has evoked an “I love you” out of a male in false pretenses during sex or ended one of the worst arguments of the year. Lets cut the games the male orgasm is developing at those moments right before we are about to cum. I say moments and not seconds because a knowledgeable individual can control the actual level and length of this sensation to last long enough to continue the passion. It’s also a warning that the end may be near for the sexual hurricane….or babbling brook that they may be engaged in. Some men may never witness this underrated sensation due to a rush to finish a job in which they are only working to please themselves. On the other hand it is said that” Nice Guys finish last because they make sure that she cums first”. The sexual orgasm leaves a man with a strong sense of accomplishment while glancing over at his woman and noticing her smiling at him as she drifts into slumber. Simply busting a nut is why he is probably out of your crib ladies before you can fix your hair straight again. For Some actually realizing when they are having an orgasm can be about as difficult as achieving one or multiples for his girl. One thing is Sirtainly for sure we can not have those back to back like women…When It has happened it has happened…Although I have realized that Going down on her to Indulge myself in a feeding frenzy, does speed up the time in between for me to continue once again. It’s something about hearing her reach her sexual Climax Once again that just compels me to continue my Civic Duty lol…The real question is how long will I have the passion for her to devote my all to satisfying her…guess that depends on her ability to satisfy me as well.

KEVIN

YES I HAVE HAD ONE!

SCOTTY J

The male orgasm, aka “busting a nut”- honestly isn’t hard to explain but Miss Intro requested and explanation, so I felt obligated to re-investigate the phenomenon over and over again until I could come up with a creditable explanation. Lol! Its almost like you are in the middle of an intense buzz! This high you can feel all over your body! From that place behind your eyes where you can usually feel a migraine headache starting down to your toes! The only problem is the high only lasts for a 3 to 10 seconds tops. The orgasmic feeling can be extended for a few seconds if you find a partner that genuinely loves you the way that it feels when you bust inside of them. I don;y know how to truthfully explain that magic but its crippling. Lol!

DANA

A male orgasm is like a roller coaster.

CHARLES

The satisfaction and feeling for a male orgasm is very undescribable, but a numbing feeling of sensation. If your partner does it right she might get breakfast or lunch and a beverage when it is done.